by Christine E. Buckingham,
PhD, LCPC, LPC, NCC
"So, how does this surrender thing
work?", some of you have asked me during our on-line
LIFL web chats. "Isn't that the same thing as just giving
up? No, that's not what it means at all. Surrender is
accepting the reality that if we are to change, then
we have to surrender to the One who is able to change
us. Surrender means surrendering to reality - accepting
the truth that the choices we make have consequences.
We cannot suspend the laws of the universe just because
we don't like them. If you consume more calories than
your body requires, you will gain weight no matter how
unfair it seems.
If you are familiar with Twelve Step
programs, this will sound like Step One: Admitting that
we are powerless. Powerless is how you feel when you
have vowed never to drive into the drive thru again,
yet you did it again. Worse yet, when the voice on the
speaker asked if you wanted a combo, you said yes, and
then, you super-sized it. Now, not only
do you feel the big bloat coming on, but you're beating
yourself up with how bad you are. And trying to
get rid of that feeling of being bad is what fuels emotional
We don't have the equipment to get
rid of these bad feelings. They are designed to take
us to Jesus so that HE can take them away. His method
is always the same: he asks us to be honest with him
about what we have done and admit our failure and our
need for him.
The act of surrender is to look at
ourselves in our moment of failure the way Jesus does.
He sees us in our weakness and in our powerlessness
and then he does the most amazing thing: He doesn't
avert his eyes, nor, does he withdraw his love. He loves
us just as we are.
Let him love you in your failure.
Don't run from him. Run to him. Accept his love and
let him give you a new start - this very moment.
You are not alone. Come join our weekly
on line chats and share the joys and the agonies of
this journey called life. God is cheering for you! And
so are we!
Chris is a New Life Ministries
network counselor who is a group facilitator for "Lose
it for Life", who along with Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill
and several others hosts New Life's weekly "Lose it
for Life" web chat. She also writes articles for New
Life web site.